Whenever we go anywhere my husband always makes us late and it’s embarrassing. No amount of nagging changes anything. I was brought up to believe that arriving late disrespectful to others. When we are late I feel like it’s a reflection on me and like I’m being rude. I know it’s not my fault but I don’t feel able to say so out of loyalty to my husband.
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Well firstly it’s probably true to say that for casual occasions most people won’t mind if you’re a little late; they may not even notice. However, work and formal occasions are different and prompt timing is important.
There is nothing we can do to change another person and make them get ready to leave on time. The only thing we can do, if we don’t want to be late, is to make it clear (in advance) that, we are going to leave the house promptly at a specific time; that we will make our own way to the destination alone if necessary. We have to mean this, of course, and have a contingency plan in case we need it! Hopefully, if have to leave alone a few times the other person will get the message!